“I just had a baby”

How long can you use the excuse of “I just had a baby” for carrying around extra weight?

When you’re pregnant, you’re supposed to gain weight. While I was pregnant, I made it very clear to Nick that this was not the time for him to diet and exercise. I needed him to be pregnant with me and by that I mean, don’t make me eat dessert alone! It wasn’t too hard to persuade him. Heck, even our cat put on some extra pounds while I was pregnant! Thanks for not making me feel alone guys! Anyway, my weight gain was slow and steady the whole pregnancy until the last week when I started developing signs of pre-eclampsia. In that week, I gained 7 pounds! Yikes. Thankfully my body knew it was time for Tucker to come out at 36 weeks when I had gained a total of 35 pounds.

Tucker is now 14 weeks old and I have 14 pounds to lose to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I still have a gut. Let’s be honest though, I had a gut before Tucker, but now I have a little extra weight all over. There, I said it.

Getting dressed is a challenge.

I go back and forth wondering if I should wear a fitted shirt where you can just see the shape of my body or cover it up with a loose shirt. It’s like…do you want to see the rolls or look even bigger in a baggy shirt? I could flip a coin on that one every single day…and then change my mind about my outfit the second I leave the house and it’s too late to change. I can fit into some of my pre-pregnancy pants (you know, the ones that have some stretch to them). Not all of my pants fit and it’s frustrating sometimes, BUT I keep telling myself that “I just had a baby” and my baby is worth every single pound, stretch mark and roll!


You know what drives me crazy though? Encounters with people who first look at Tucker and then immediately look at my stomach. It happens literally every day. Whether it’s random people at the grocery store, neighbors, friends or family — it happens all the time! Yep, I just called all of you out on it. It’s like everyone is curious to see just how fast my body has bounced back to “normal” or not. Why does everyone care so much?

Recently Tucker and I went flower shopping. I was feeling pretty good about myself because I squeezed into a pair of non-stretchy jeans for the first time! They certainly fit differently than they did before, but they fit! Every woman at the garden nursery peeked in the car seat and smiled as we passed them. People love babies! One woman stopped me and asked how old she was. Even though I dress Tuck in blue every day, people always think he’s a girl. So I used my line, “he’s pretty like a girl, but his name is Tucker and he’s blah blah weeks old.” The woman then complimented ME and said, “Wow! You look fantastic for just having a baby! And you’re out of the house flower shopping! Good for you!” I thanked her, gave myself a pat on the back and went about my shopping. Navigating a cart with flowers and a car seat was incredibly challenging, but as I loaded up my car I was feeling really good about myself! This random stranger made my day! Annnndd then I sat down in the driver’s seat and realized I had my jeans unbuttoned the entire time! Whoops! Haha!

Here’s the deal.

I try to get outside and walk with Tucker as much as possible. I’m very lucky to have a husband who will exercise with me too. Tucker loves the stroller and being outside, but do we exercise every day? Nope. I have a million excuses and sometimes literally no energy to make it happen, but I’m happy, I’m healthy and I’m doing my best. And you know what? I’ve never had someone look at me the way Tucker looks at me. That kid freakin’ loves me! He smiles at me like I’m the most beautiful momma in the world! He doesn’t care about my rolls, my extra weight, my messy bun or my tired eyes. He just loves me!

So my fitness goal is to just love me too because, hey, I just had a baby!

It’s Tuck Tuesday, Taco Tuesday and I’m gonna have this glass of wine and not worry about it. Cheers!

-Abby Jane

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  1. Thanks so much for that!!! You keep being awesome Abby!! I struggle with myself as well but after looking at Kael I know it was all worth it and I would do it again in a heartbeat!! Much love ❤

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